Last one picked for the team... again...

I still wonder if I have come to terms with the fact that I am an overthinker... Last night I was telling a friend she shouldn't overthink and just go with the flow... I am known for giving great advices and being a great listener, why can't I just follow them when it comes to my own life?

I know the answer to that question... The fact is that it's much easier being the spectator and give a balanced and impartial view on a matter you are NOT involved... That's for sure... I hear myself giving my friends the best advice I can possibly imagine and I just wish I could follow them, I wish i could be impartial with my own life... But, no... Not only I don't follow them, i also over analyse EVERY little thing in my life... which is useless cause life is unpredictable and full of surprises (here comes the cliche lol)...

Shai, a friend from school, commented on my last post and made an extreme valid point...

Part of it said:

"i must say that i think that some games are inevitable and that's part of human nature. and i'll tell you how i know that; take small children for example, they learn that if they have two parents, and one (let's say the mother) is chasing them all day long, feeding them and dressing them - they feel less oblige to show there love back.. "

He is absolutely right... It is part of the human nature... We tend to appreciate the people closest to us less and less... If the person is always there, ready to be by your side, you chose the person furthest, hardest to get... We take that little behavior from when we were children to our love life... We meet someone, have a great time... but we still want to feel part of the chase... the chase is what makes it worthwhile... I wonder though... The chase has to end at some point hasn't it? people do commit to one another eventually, dont they? What's the trigger for that?
Do people just get tired of the chase? or are they just settleling cause it's easier?
What happens to people like me, I'm relatively new at the dating game (for reasons I'm not going to get into at this specific moment...), I dont know the rules and I am a very impulsive person... what am I supposed to do??

I was reading a Brazillian blog these days called "O Manual do Cafajeste", in english is something like "The Womanizer's Manual", where this 24 year-old guy posts his adventures as a single guy and gives tips to women... I find it extremely interesting (even though the rules are NOT the same here in Israel and back in Brazil... I do plan to analyse the diferences in a future post... I just need to do some research with my Israeli friends...) and at the same time depressing...

Because honestly, each post I read there makes my hopes of finding someone special someday go downhill... I mean, men lie, cheat, complain, play games, put you in the "fridge" (I'll get to that when I analyse the cultural diferences)... You need to act and react in a certain way otherwise he wil *PUFF* disappear and so on... It's scary out there... and when you read all these thingls you are probably doing wrong and the things they do just to get laid... It's easy to think "HAHAHA... Im done"... I mean, what's the point of all the suffering?? Is there a silver lining out there somewhere??

I do like to believe there is one... That there is someone out there for all of us... Someone that needs you in their life, can't go a day without hearing your voice, seeing your face, kissing your lips... Someone to be by your side when you need it most... Someone to laugh with... someone to cry with... a lover, a best friend... The air you need to keep on living...

With that in mind...
I was watching American Idol the week before last and they had a live performance of "No Air" with Jordin Sparks and Chris Brown... The song is great and the lyrics are perfect for this post...

As I was listening to it I realised that, that's all we can hope... Someone in our lives that is the air we breathe... (while the sentiment in reciprocated... off course)
(without the whole, "not being there" part... lol)

Enjoy the live performance below:



PS: from this post on I will recoment a song that fits my mood at the moment I wrote it or the content of the post...